Live Like Mae West – Monday Motivation #5
Why Mae West?
I have always had a kind of affinity and respect for Mae West.
I remember quotes like:
- Why don’t ya come up and see me sometime when I’ve got nothing on but the radio
- Is that a gun in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?
I think I like the quotes because I like the attitude that Mae always carried:
Completely unapologetic about who she was.
Who can say:
When I’m good, I’m very good, but when I’m bad, I’m better
and still be worrying about what other people think?
I admire that quality about her.
And strive to be as immune to criticism and scrutiny from others as Mae West was.
And yet am I?
Who am I?
Am I fearless in expressing myself?
Am I devout in my love for myself?
Mae also once said:
I don’t like myself – I’m crazy about myself.
Could I ever say that and mean it?
Truth is, this website and my blog as a whole are works in progress, one of many places where I work on precisely those things.
I struggle – like everyone else
- to find my inner self,
- to define that person in an image that I personally have decided is what I want, and then
- to steel myself against all comers.
I think that last phrase holds a key to my perspective
If I am steeling myself, then I am almost “bracing” for an onslaught. I’m hunkering down in a defensive stance and shielding my “tender bits.”
That defensive posture is probably precisely the problem.
Mae said this (and I think it is my favorite quote):
I wrote the story myself. It’s about a girl who lost her reputation and never missed it.
Clearly she didn’t behave in a way that cow-tows to public opinion or that strives to protect her reputation.
And I love that she doesn’t. That is exactly the unapologetic nature of self-esteem and confidence that I want to feel.
When I am steeling against something/someone, I’m:
- concerned about them,
- on-the-look-out for them,
- allowing them to remain within my thought process, remain a consideration.
Drop the shield…
To give no thought to the “onslaught” or to “all comers”
To live as if they don’t exist…
or better yet, as if they don’t matter —
That’s my new goal.
I don’t think I can strive to be an Exalted Peacock and not work toward that end.
Wearing what I feel like, when I feel like it.
Saying how I feel and not awaiting the reaction from others.
Being who I am and loving “who I be”
Yep, I think those things should make it to a paper –
posted on my mirror in my bathroom…
So that I can remind myself to live every day that way
“You only live once but if you do it right, once is enough” ~Mae West