If you don’t love yourself …
If you don’t love yourself, how can you trust others when they say they love you?
A man told me today that he loved me.
And I desperately wanted to believe him.
I do love him – that much I know.
But I am not sure that he really loves me.
Maybe he loves the idea of me. Maybe he loves the parts of me that he has seen so far. Maybe he loves:
- The cordial me
- The proper me
- The public façade that truly represents me but isn’t ALL of me
I fear that when he knows ALL of me,
… maybe he won’t actually love me. Maybe today he was just enamored of me or what he thinks I am.
Maybe when he knows ALL of me, he will:
- Begin to treat me less well than he does today
- Love me less, if at all
- Expect more of me so that I might earn the love that I “no longer deserve”
- Be gone
How do I avoid this trap and all of the feelings that surround it?
- I spend time in joyful positive introspection.
- I examine all of my beautiful qualities.
- I spend time preening each feather that I discover and appreciating its beauty.
- I do as I did the other day and smell the roses in the mirror .
Eventually these things result in a positive self-awareness.
They result in self-appreciation.