So, I was on Facebook this week and I posted an image on privilege that upset a friend – a white friend. He asked me to spell it out him “like I’m five.” He was not the first white friend of mine with whom I had some words about the week’s events; emotionally charged events like these can really rip at the fabric of relationships. I answered this friend because he gave me the platform to try and because, even though it’s hard to talk about these topics, in my opinion, it’s necessary.
This week I have no words that can soften what the nation is experiencing, what black Americans experience on a routine basis, what each of us is experiencing on an individual level as we watch the events unfold, as we attempt to make sense of what we are seeing, as we engage with one another.
Friday is my day for music – typically uplifting music; this week, I feel like a different vibe is necessary. I have gathered these four songs as ones that may resonate, may heal, may salve open emotional wounds:Continue reading “George Floyd and So Many Others – Philharmonic Friday”
This week has been emotionally brutal. Our beautiful pit bull rescue Danaerys is no longer with us and it has been a week of thunderous waves of sadness and loss.
Losing a pet is hard – so hard. Losing this dear sweet kind gentle rescue feels even harder still. I had wanted to give her more time living a happy carefree life – enough time to make up for the years she spent as an overused breeder-dog and the years she spent living in shelters awaiting her rescue family.
I feel robbed of that opportunity and searching for solace. I find myself selfishly missing Dani’s presence and feeling sad for memories-not-made … which brings me this week’s song…Continue reading “My Friends by Oh Wonder – Philharmonic Friday”
I know that Group 1 Crew has been a recent Phil Fri. I know. I know. And I will say that I do try to put new and varied music on here each Friday, buuuutttt…
I can’t help touting this song as we run into this upcoming long weekend. I have been feeling so ‘limited’ by my bajillion options in life – like I have to restrict myself so that I can “be sure to be successful.” And then here comes this song and it has SUCH a powerful counterpoint to my mental B.S. I mean, I can’t help but sing along when I hear:Continue reading “Let’s Go by Group 1 Crew – Philharmonic Friday”
This week I am struggling. I feel like I am being pulled in a thousand directions and – in a strange twist – I want to do ALL OF THEM right now! I once wrote a post about what happens when members of the same family have dreams that pull them in different directions. This year, the ‘different directions’ are all coming from inside me – in my heart. I feel like I have a ton of doors unlocked and available to me right now. And I want to try them all!
Have you ever felt that way? Like you have choose a path – just one path – even though there are a number of doors that intrigue you (and maybe even some windows). Still, somehow it feels like you only get one road to your ‘best life’ …one road to happiness or success – have you ever felt like that? Like choosing the right door is a lottery with massive consequences? Choose wisely because if you choose the wrong door, tsk tsk… you are headed for a life of …Continue reading “Analysis Paralysis – Monday Motivation #49”
Alternative rock tends to make me feel less uplifted and more angry (which is a really great and useful emotion to be sure). So it may seem a little strange that this week’s song comes from a band who once toured with Sum 41 and Finger Eleven on their 2007 Strength in Numbers Tour (I couldn’t find a news article or other link to a concert tour from so long ago, but I did find this blog post that just tickled me!).
Anyways, Alt Rock – maybe feels a little less happy-go-lucky and a little more leave-me-the-eff-alone … But here’s the thing:Continue reading “Beautiful by Social Code – Philharmonic Friday”
I decided that this week, instead of Monday Motivation, posting a Sunday Validation is more important. There will not be a post tomorrow.
As today is Mother’s Day, the vast majority of people will be celebrating mothers, extolling their virtues and praising their hard work.
I didn’t have that experience.
My experience with mother(s) was far less loving than anything I see reflected in mass media, social media, and current personal experience.
Today, I want to offer space for those of us with “Mother-issues” so that we can also feel like our experience is valid. For those who need to hear it:Continue reading “Mother’s Day Message – Offering an Alternative”
“Cheer up sleepy, Jean”
I feel like there was a time when music had such as sing-able quality: easy lyrics, vibrant vocals, and damn-snappy stick-in-the-head-ness.Continue reading “Daydream Believer – Philharmonic Friday”